Trauma & Resilience

Healing Relationships When You’d Rather Not
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Healing Relationships When You’d Rather Not

In the 5 Tasks of the Living to Prepare for a Peaceful Dying (from Facing Death and Finding Hope by Christine Longacker) we are charged with Step 2: Healing Relationships. But don’t worry; I’m not going to force you to confront every person you ever had beef with. This step isn’t about forgiving the unforgivable…

Create a Backyard Oasis for Improved Mental Health
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Create a Backyard Oasis for Improved Mental Health

I’m a huge advocate of soaking up all things nature whenever things feel overwhelming or out-of-control. And research agrees with me, from Ingrid Fetell Lee’s concept of joyspotting to the Japanese practice of shinrin-yoku, or forest bathing. Often, if we live in an urban or suburban setting, we think nature is inaccessible…even when it’s right…

How ‘Young Love’ Becomes a Trap
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How ‘Young Love’ Becomes a Trap

Picture it: Small Town, U.S.A., 1994. R&B songs about the kind of deep heartbreak that 11-year-old me couldn’t possibly understand play on repeat on the Walkman. A redheaded, freckle-faced girl with too much hairspray in her bangs stares out a rain-streaked window. I’m torturing myself over a boy who’s rejected me. This would happen over…

The Year Before Your “Bad” Relationship
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The Year Before Your “Bad” Relationship

Think for a moment of a “bad” romantic relationship you were in. We spin over not only why, but how it could have happened. Behaviors, choices, betrayals, and abuses could all be to blame why it went south, but how often do we consider what was taking place in our lives just before we met…